Don't personal open inside
Unrelated music for those who accidentally ended up in here. Personal stuff.
So I got a call I was dreading that my granddad (the 101 year badass who can't be stopped) is taking a turn for the worse. Work was cool with me taking the days off, I can afford the flights, it was going to be good.
Literally three minutes after all those calls, Toronto gets put into lockdown. And my mum is still like "we can figure it out!". Nope. The law is pretty clear. And, due to my job, I'm kind of held to a higher standard. My older sister understands. My mum doesn't and has generally been pretty bad at quarantining.
I'm just mad. I'm angry that the selfish behaviour of people is dragging this out far longer than necessary. I'm angry that people are throwing personal politics at the problem of "can't trust the Liberals" or "the government will throw you in jail if you don't get the vaccine." I wish people would unlodge their heads from their assholes and see that this shit is actually serious. I wish people would figure out that they're just being asked to stay home and not contact people. It's not like we have a fucking war going on with places being bombed. It's not like we're being asked to resole our shoes since rubber is in demand to keep our country for falling apart, or being forced to eat rations since that's all we have. Stay home and order take out. It's not a fucking sacrifice. It's not the end of the world. But it might be if people can't fucking figure it out.
In any case, there's nothing I can do. I'll try to call him tomorrow and as much as I can from here on out. I'm just sad.
Apologies for the cursing, I'm trying to work on that.
Sorry to hear that. Fucking sucks. Yeah - people are stupid and made this worse far more than it needed to be.
jminer last edited by
Shit man - that's awful. I can't do anything but offer sympathies, the world fucking sucks right now. Not the same level by any means but I haven't seen the missus in 3 weeks and had to cancel a flight back this weekend with it being unsafe to travel now too.
CarsOfFortLangley last edited by
@cb I'm so, so sorry to hear that. I/we, are in a somewhat similar situation. Wife's 91 year old Great Grandma has COVID we just learned and she has pre-exisitng issues and is already on oxygen.
It is both infuriating and distressing that there is no way to visit and no meaningful way to say "I love you" or even goodbye, although it does sort of help knowing that you're not alone and there isn't anything you can do about that.
No phone call or $6 dollar card from Save-On Foods with "Feel Better Soon" on the front even comes close to communicating your feelings or replacing human contact, but its the most that can be done.
I also here you on the mom that won't take shit seriously. I sit here on my computer and watch the sun come up and go down from the same spot, every day. She's out playing golf, having people over and shit.
if you ever need to chat anytime, you know how to reach out.
davesaddiction last edited by
Damn, I’m sorry @cb ...
chan last edited by chan
@cb Sorry we 'Muricans screwed it up. It was unavoidable--like any country, American people are vulnerable to poor leadership and especially to the outright lack of leadership. When there is no national narrative or drive to suppress the outbreak, people fall back onto shitty snake oil advice and tribalism.
Wish your family peace and closure.
lokerola last edited by
Sorry man. Hang in there.
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I'm so sorry. I'm focusing more on your personal pain here. I understand not being able to be there. I also get your higher standard problem. I was going to ask if there was anyway you could get a test and then responsibly drive there, but the I looked up the distance. Dang that's far.
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@cb I'm so sorry to read this, and I'm sorry to not have any words to make it better. I hope things are able to work out for you soon.
@pyramidhat bUt MuH fReEdOmS
@jminer that really sucks, I'm sorry to hear that.
@CarsOfFortLangley Yeah, I totally get that. I'm doing Christmas cards with Sammy, so I'll be sending one home. Hopefully it's enough. Family is also infuriating and it's tempting to disown sometimes.
@davesaddiction Thanks man.
@chan Not going to solely blame you guys on this one. We have our own host of idiots out here. I stood with a group of them the other night (was at a gas leak with not much to do), basically called out all of their "facts".
@lokerola Always do. Thanks dude.
@Chariotoflove I'd have to fly to make it in any meaningful time, and Toronto has banned indoor gatherings with people outside of the household. Which means no matter what, I'd be breaking the law if I went home.
@Cash-Rewards Thanks man. I'm hoping too.
Also, thanks to the forum for making this easier to do than 100 comments saying "thanks" one at a time.
Dr. Zoidberg last edited by
Hang in there. Holidays are stupid. People risking death for a meal is only further proof of the pedestal we prop these dumb norms upon.
Please forgive the salt.
@dr-zoidberg my older sister works for a hospital, she was upset when she saw my family getting together, while her and her boyfriend were quarantining it.
The salt is understandable. People don't understand that norms are entirely social constructs. In university, every Friday was Breakfast Day in my friend group at the local tavern. When people couldn't make it because of a class or exam, yeah it sucked, but hey, sometimes something more important happens. Like not wanting to kill loved ones because you want to eat a stupid bird.
spacekraken last edited by
@CB Ugh that sounds so rough, sorry and hang in there. My friend's giant pupper Jammy sends you and Sammy good vibes.
Just Jeepin' last edited by
My response: https://opposite-lock.com/topic/1189/sacrifice
Best of luck, CB. I don't know what's next for us; this is going to be a brutal winter.
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@dr-zoidberg we have to adhere to this date that was once upon a time arbitrarily chosen!!!
RallyDarkstrike last edited by RallyDarkstrike
Hey man...so sorry you are going through this, that is not easy. The world is in a whole heap of not making sense these days and it's frustrating. We can go day to day surviving this new reality and then suddenly stuff like this comes out of nowhere to slap us in the face.
Your story hits home in a roundabout way for me after today...I was subbing at a local school all day today (Grade 3) and for health, we'd been discussing differences that people live with (specifically a kids book on OCD and Anxiety called 'Anxious Annie'). We had also had a discussion on empathy. Not long after our empathy class discussion, I had to deal with 'little girl drama' (clearly those girls didn't get the 'empathy' message...).
5 of the girls had been at each other on and off all day...and finally two of the 'mean girls' had told one of the others that her dog was ugly. The other girl burst into uncontrollable tears. I'd had enough so I took all 5 of them out into the hall in a large circle and we discussed what was going on. I asked why the crying little girl was crying....
Turns out part of her family had moved up here to Nova Scotia from the US (her and her mom) late last year with a little of their stuff and her dad had planned to stay behind there for a month or two due to work at their old house and then move up here with the rest of their stuff...but he is now stuck there at their old place because of COVID. This was her answer when I asked why she was crying:
"We moved here from Texas in December......I haven't even seen my dog in almost a year".
I almost teared up at that remark. Here were these little girls unknowingly making mean comments they didn't REALLY mean just to upset another girl, not knowing how deeply that comment actually cut because of the current situation we are dealing with. I explained to them why she was upset and that it is easy just to 'say words' but that sometimes those words can hurt far deeper than we understand....they all apologized to each other and were OK for the rest of the day.....I hope the message sunk in.
That's my story. Food for thought in a lot of ways to all of us. If you ever need to talk man, just find me on chat
MidEngine last edited by
I feel ya, my mom is 80 and lives alone in Brockville. She's been quarantining since the beginning and would love me to stay with her, and I could do it easily as we'll be WFH until at least July. But here I am living in the U.S. and doubt my wife and I (she's American) would be able to get across the border, then across the country.
My brother's father-in-law died, they said goodbye on Zoom. My bro lives in Katy, Texas. No fucking way they could go to Montreal to be there, or to attend the funeral. Shit is fucking real. Chin up.
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Peter_Black last edited by
@cb oh dude. Im so sorry
Shop-Teacher last edited by
@cb I'm really sorry to hear that. I completely agree with you about the way people are acting. I was ready to launch I to a profanity laden rant about that, when my daughters started crying because I had to tell them their karate classes are cancelled. You have a much better reason for that rant.
gmctavish last edited by
That's really awful man, I'm sorry. Of all my grandparents, there was only one that I had any warning they were going to die, and I was able to take a couple days off work and go with my dad to just be in her hospital room. I can't imagine not being able to do that because of other peoples selfishness and stupidity, that's rough.
101 is a hell of an age to get to, good for him.
phenotyp last edited by phenotyp
@cb I feel you. I’d been planning on visiting my then-almost-96 grandmother (last grandparent) early this year. January got crazy with work. February, my daughter got the flu, and ended up giving it to me. So I figured we’d go visit her during my daughter’s spring break, in mid-March.
Guess what happened in mid-March.
Gram passed at the end of may, after having been completely isolated for the last 2 months of her life.
Anger, sadness, and regret are all perfectly natural and healthy responses to have in situations like this. At this point, you’d think people would have gotten their shit together in this. Instead, we have the opposite. I’m sorry, man. It fucking sucks.
Rider last edited by
I'm sorry to hear that, CB.